Archive for June, 2014


I am so totally starting to feel like a broke record here…the email I sent to HR (find it in this post) and then the subsequent follow-ups (find those here) have rendered NATCH, not a damn thing has come as a result;  I did go digging for the HR Manager’s boss’s email address and information – giving her until the end of the day today to get back to me then all of my communication is going to her boss.  I WILL NOT be ignored, NOR will I back down.  This is one of those situations I feel that the fight needs to continue and this needs to be dealt with.

On a side note though, I have registered with for my job search – while I am not sure, well not 100% sure my current employer is going to do a THING about the email I sent, nor are they going to take ownership of the crap situation I am in, I have decided that maybe its better to just look for a new job.  As I have said in the past I am not looking for just any job, being pickier, figure that as long as I am employed currently I can be.

Next, we have had some discussion at home about our financial situation, we have some larger decisions to make:

  1. How to bring in more income – should my hubby take on a 2nd job? Would it be work it financially? Would my stress/anxiety levels allow for me to basically be a single Mom?
  2. Should I go ahead and try to find some freelance work? I have registered with two Freelance websites (, and to try and find some work that way
  3. Should we pursue another Mortgage Modification? I am about 90% sure we wouldn’t be approved for it because our interest rate in ALREADY way below current market rates @ 4.5%
  4. If no modification what are our options? Bankruptcy? Ditching the house and moving? With rental rates as high as they are in our current city, the likelihood we could stay here in slim…so then what?
  5. If we have to move, then where to?

I can’t restructure our budget any further, I’ve cut back as much as I can on just about everything, I am NOT willing to cut more from our grocery budget ($200.00/wk) because I want to continue to eat healthy and eating healthier is more expensive than not (I know such a contrary situation)…the only upswing right now is that the kids get Breakfast & Lunch @ camp w/Brigades, so I am only providing a morning “snack” to take their ADHD meds with (otherwise they get nauseous)

So anyone – thoughts? Suggestions?

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First I am going to say this:

Yes I am thankful to have a Job, for as long as Goddess deems this job appropriate for my life situation

Yes I am thankful to have a home, for however long Citi allows us to hold onto it (haven’t made any form of payment to them in about a month…)

Yes I am thankful for my health

Yes I am thankful my children are healthy

Yes I am thankful my for my husband’s  support every single day

Yes I am thankful for my family

Yes I am thankful for all of the support I have around me

What I am bothered by is that fact that we’re stuck in a royal rut!  Nothing I do seems to work – I am not sure where else to turn…I’ve emailed HR requesting both research into how I can get on full-time here with benefits and paid time off, along with a raise – no I am not asking for a retro raise, just going forward (though retro would be AWESOME! They do it for our field guys ALL the damn time)…yet here I am six weeks later and NOT A DAMN THING has come of it – I sent yet another follow-up yesterday:

“Good Morning XXX,

I hope this finds you well on this Monday morning.
I am curious where we stand at present…I haven’t heard anything from you of any concrete value since I sent my initial email almost 6-Weeks Ago…
Please let me know where we are.
My motivation at work is TANKING quickly
My motivation to do my job well is TANKING quickly
It could be a number of things causing this and I can’t pinpoint one of them…
So here I am, requesting help – I need you my readers to give me some ideas – we need to increase our income, getting a 2nd job as I have said multiple times is NOT an option due to my hubby’s already unpredictable and weird work schedule, there’s no point in contradicting a 2nd job w/having to fork over extra for childcare.
Need to brainstorm some ideas to bring in extra money w/out doing any of those direct-sale product lines (aka Mary Kay, been there, done that; Avon, Amway, etc.)
Thanks Guys!

A While ago I Posted this Post Well I Finally Got Fed Up – Sent an Email to HR  and since I posted that I’ve had a lot of inquiries as to what’s going on, so I thought I’d share the following conversations I’ve had with the HR Manager for my area:

The following day I received this email from the HR Director:

“Hi Lara,

I am the HR manager for your area and I have received your email.  I am looking into your concerns and will follow up with you next week. Thank you for reaching out.”

I am keeping the HR Manager’s name out of this, the following email chain followed:

From Me: “Thanks XXXXX!  I do appreciate it.”

And then for 8-Days Natch, sent this follow-up:

“Good Morning XXXXXX,

Just Following up, curious if you’ve had any luck gaining headway with this issue?  Or if there’s more information you need.
Happy Friday!”
Her Response: ” Happy Friday back at YOU!I am working on it and think I have all the information I need, I have a follow up meeting set for Tuesday. Keepyou posted.  Have a good weekend.”

My Response: “Awesome! Thanks so much!!! I do appreciate you looking into this for me.

Have a Great Weekend!”
Her Response: “Don’t thank me too fast.”
My Response: “I’m not I just appreciate someone finally taking my concerns seriously, Boss Lady always just gives me those non-answers and to finally have someone looking into it is something I appreciate.  Trust me.”
Her Response: “We will talk next week. Don’t be too rough on Boss Lady, I got all my information from her.”
Internally I rolled my eyes thinking to myself “Wonderful, Wonder what crap answer she gave the HR Manager”
11-Days Passed with Nothing Further, I sent this follow-up:
“Good Morning XXXXX,

Hope you had an amazing Memorial Day Weekend! We did, hit the beach twice w/the kiddos and just hung out at home.
Just following-up on this request, have you made any headway, have any updates?
And yet again no response until I sent this email 5-Days Later, I came down with a nasty cold over the weekend and was to say the least less than pleased I had to try and work at home all the while take care of this nasty cold
“Good Evening XXXXX,

Following-up again on this, haven’t heard anything back yet and curious what’s doing.
Also just wanted to give an example of a concurrent issue this lack of benefits causes – I’ve been up and down all weekend w/this cold like thing cough runny to stuffy nose low grade fever and I emailed Boss Lady to let her know that I’d be out tomorrow – BUT working from home – when I really need another day to rest and maybe even check in with the Dr – but because I can’t afford to lose anymore pay on top of what was lost last Monday – Memorial Day, I am in a bind.  I’ve worked at home when nauseated – literally when sitting up made me feel like I was going to hurl because I couldn’t afford to lose the income – worked through Mono earlier this year because again couldn’t afford to lose the income.
Any update at all would be wonderful!
FOUR Days Later I get this Response:
“Hi Lara,I know I probably sound like a broken record with all of these different travel schedules. But your concerns really have been researched a number of us have been traveling. As a matter of fact I am currently in CA. I will be back in the office on Wednesday. Let’s try to catch up maybe that afternoon on Thursday morning.”

I responded in Kind with this:

“Ok thanks for letting me know – was getting concerned there for a moment.

And yes, Thursday sounds great!”
And in the between there I hosted one of the finance guys from our corporate office and the poor thing got an ear full from me about everything – my need for paid time off, benefits, lack of a 401K, and why I thought my Boss isn’t willing to give me benefits, telling him I didn’t want that to get back to Boss Lady…he understood – his disdain for the corporate BS Game was something he also discussed…he too was thoroughly astounded that me and this other woman in my office were in the boat we’re in…so we shall see…
That’s where I am right now…waiting for Thursday.


Ok so the last couple of nights we’ve talked about two very significant dreams I had over the weekend and how they’ve impacted me and what their possible meanings are, I have come to two firm conclusions on them thus far:

1.  The escaping of the arranged marriage doesn’t mean I am unhappy in my current marriage and family situation – just that I am currently unhappy in my life outside of my home.

2.  The moving overseas to London doesn’t literally mean a move to Merry Old England, it just means that there’s a move I have to make and I am quite intimidated by the idea of the move moreso than the actual move itself.

You can read more on these dreams and subsequent interpretations within these two posts

Change and What Our Dreams Can Tell Us


Change and What Our Dreams Can Tell Us Part II

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This is a continuation of last night’s post: Change and What Our Dreams Can Tell Us found here

Ok so after doing some digging tonight I have looked online to try and decipher the meanings of my two dreams and the pieces going into each of them, according to the website DreamMoods an arranged marriage can me “To dream that you are in an arranged marriage suggests that you are feeling forced to do something you do not want to do. You are reluctantly moving into a new stage in your life. You feel that you have no voice or no choice in a situation. Consider how a waking situation may be making you feel voiceless.”  Seems like the forced/sold into bondage scenario might mean that I am feeling pressured or forced to do something in my life that I do not want to do – could it be a…

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What prompts change?

For all of us that trigger is different, myself, to lose these excess 50-pounds I have been carrying around for years was being told that at 35 years of age my good cholesterol was higher than it should have been.  Excuse me? I thought all was ok! I guess not, and so began the path to losing the weight.

However, this change I am talking about now came about in a very different manner – this time it was a dream I had, one that was more vivid than one I could have ever fathomed.  Have you ever had a dream like that? Maybe, maybe not, but this one rocked me to my very core.  Let me tell you all about it and then we can work to dissect it together; this dream came to me when I was sleeping in on a Saturday morning, just…

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